In our society the death of a person is a well recognised loss.  There are many rituals designed to help the family and friends of the deceased individual come to grips with their loss.  Rituals such as a funeral, words of condolence, flowers, mourning period and other culturally significant rituals, help the bereaved and those around them process the loss event.

However, we now know that this is not the only type of loss that a person may grieve over.  There are many losses that can be devastating for the person experiencing the loss, yet remain unrecognised or dismissed by those around them, and broader society.  Some losses may be kept hidden because of social stigmas attached to the loss.  

You may come across the term ‘disenfranchised grief’ if you are searching for information on loss, grief and bereavement. This is the term professional grief and loss counsellors have for grief related to less socially acknowledged or accepted losses.

Perhaps you are experiencing one of these but have been unable to identify that it has been the cause of your sadness.  Or perhaps you felt the loss but didn’t understand why it was impacting on you the way it has.

Take the time to look at the drop list and see if any of the types of loss covered speaks to you.

Also have a read of this worthwhile article.  

https://whatsyourgrief.com/64-examples-of-disenfranchised-grief/